“Passion is a positive obsession. Obsession is a negative passion.” ~ Paul Carvel
Are you obsessed? How many times have you called, texted, looked at, stared, thought or dreamed of another? How many times do you look up their facebook page, twitter account, blog, website or any other. How many times have you called and hung up? How many times have you thought of calling, texting or talking, but haven’t? Obsession is a force, but one that needs further introspection.
In a normal human life, many develop an obsession. Obsessions can be with anything, but do not confuse obsession with passion. Often, an obsession may start as a crush or simply a very invested interest in another person. But, what happens when we cross the line? Strange things begin to happen, and we notice the energy we produce. An obsession can become a plague; a parasitic behavior that breeds destruction. Some live and breathe the life of another, slowly dying and never being.
Obsessions are born with desire, in a sphere of want. If one becomes subdued by his obsessed object, he will stop at nothing to gain his trophy. Attaining this prize can become life, an often fruitless goal. If talking about goals, a positive goal, we are then talking about passion. If referring to gaining another person’s complete attention or complete focus on anything considered non-constructive, we are talking of obsession.
This is not about pursuing a love interest in a normal fashion, this is about stalking. There are those that live in a shadow of self, where they hide and stalk others, afraid to come out into the light. This is a destructive behavior. The need, desire and want consumes the mind and clouds the heart. The stalker consumes himself with the life of another, and then stops at nothing to become, change or live in tandem with the life of his target. And then, what does one do when he has his target. Chains? This is wasteful.
Obsessions can lead into the black. Passions lead to the light. Without attentive hearts, in our obsessions we can easily be consumed by desire by attempting to fill a void that we cannot ever fill. We wish for acceptance or attention, but if we only attune, we need no other attention save that of the divine hand.
We see what we wish for in another, and can never gain what we do not possess. But, most fail to realize that, no matter, we possess all we need, all the time; we need nothing else. Leave your obsessions, live for good work and love. Realize the tools to gain anything are already yours.
The only obsession we need is one of unity; a unity of living, love and heartfelt compassion for all life’s creatures.