The Boundary

“There are things known and things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” ~Aldous Huxleyย 

In life, we have many boundaries. These are all around us even though we may not be aware of them. Boundaries can be physical, mental, spiritual and cultural. We must take care to recognize and respect these boundaries, and we must also know that the sphere of boundaries can be crossed and understood if one attunes the heart.

We all have known a “close talker” at one time or another. These individuals have little sense of one’s personal space. We find ourselves backing up to get room; to get back into our comfort zone. Everyone’s sense of personal space varies considerably. Some don’t mind the close talk, while others shy away from it. These are human’s physical boundaries.

In many countries, particularly in the middle, near and far east, it is a common sight to see men walking down the street holding hands. In western society, this can be taken as a sign of homosexuality, but it is in fact, nothing more than a show of friendship and loyalty. This is a cultural boundary that most outsiders do not understand.

In language, we are limited by our understanding of foreign concepts. One phrase spoken or written in English can impart an entirely different meaning in many other languages, or it may not even be comprehendible. Some can take a simple complement in one language to be an insult in another. We must tread lightly within the sphere of boundaries as to not offend others.

We all interpret religion and philosophy differently as well. A statement about one’s faith can be taken very offensively for one person, while another may see it as insightful. This all depends on the faith and the person’s unique experience. The mental and spiritual boundary spheres exist in tandem. They can be crossed by some, whereas others stand on the margin.

Walk softly along the boundaries of existence. These exist to be recognized and respected. These can also be broken by realizing the sacredness of them. We can do this with the heartmind. We must witness that they are there, and that through respect and compassion, boundaries can be crossed peacefully.

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21 thoughts on “The Boundary

  1. Well said. Boundaries are integral to the work I do as a therapist, helping people become aware of theirs and others’ boundaries. Sometimes I must help mold, shrink or stretch boundaries in order for healing to occur. This post has so many applications – thank you!

  2. Very well-written. You seem to have a great sense of understanding in regards to the cultural, spiritual, physical and mental boundaries that can hold one back or help them move forward – depending on the individual. Great read.

  3. Boundries exist in all facets of human existence. Even close friends and family members have boundries that we need to respect and try not to cross. I agree with your paragraph, “Walk softly along the boundaries of existence. These exist to be recognized and respected. These can also be broken by realizing the sacredness of them. We can do this with the heartmind. We must witness that they are there, and that through respect and compassion, boundaries can be crossed peacefully.” This is the road to a loving peace amongst people and nations. Excellent post! ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Very well said. I particularly like these words, “Walk softly along the boundaries of existence.” Very poetic. I very much appreciate coming across these words tonight. Thank you. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Have a Happy Day,

  5. knowthesphere. With care and sensitivity, boundaries can be crossed peacefuly. Sometimes our families forget and cross our boundaries…by forcing us to love the people they love or making us leave the people we truly love. By making us do jobs or courses we really do not love at school or making us become what they failed to become. Sometimes we break boundaries too. Thanks for sharing this insightful article. Great.

  6. How do we recognize and respect boundaries yet realize in the extreme some can divide and alienate us as individuals, societies, cultures? As humans we have a common heritage of morality (don’t kill, don’t steal, don’t lie, etc.) that has strengthened our “human-ness” yet we seem to work hard at finding ways to differentiate ourselves into contrived spheres of existence – religious, economic, psychological, etc. History seems to show us most of our “boundary issues” end up being resolved to the detriment of someone – how do we find a way to stop that?

    1. I believe that we instinctually create boundaries and walls for self preservation. Maybe this is a learned behavior that comes with survival among groups. But, a very interesting point you bring up. I’ll have to meditate on this. Thanks for your insightful question.

  7. Totally agree!!! Even in the same country traditions and customs vary. I’m a country guy and from Australia, in used to lots of personal space and found the lack of it in cities hard to take when I first moved to Sydney. People thought I was being aloof or distant, but actually I was just not used to standing cheek to jowl with people.

    Capt. Savage

  8. Your post has me pondering boundaries and how some are visible and obvious and others faded and obscure. I am aware and wary of boundaries and try to stay mindful of them – and yet there are times I know I have stumbled across a hidden boundary. My words spoken in innocence – leading to words returned with fire.
    There is a saying that “good fences make good neighbors.” Good advice in the physical world and the inter-personal world. If you have a boundary you do not want others to cross – than let them know they are treading too close.

  9. I think it can be overwhelming to have to consider all the possible boundaries surrounding us. I think respect is what will help us decide what is okay and what is not. Also, we should be aware that many people will think differently from how we personally do, and in this case we shouldn’t jump to conclusions, but rather try to comprehend why someone acts or thinks differently from us and go from there. As always beautiful post!

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